Tuesday, July 29, 2014

"Nice guys are the scum of the earth!"

Science confirms what every man learns in high school:
Scientifically, nice (heterosexual) guys might actually finish last. A study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin recently found that while men were attracted to nice-seeming women upon meeting them, women did not feel the same way about men. Researchers from the University of Rochester, the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya in Israel investigated a possible mechanism explaining why women and men differ in their sexual reactions with receptive opposite-sex strangers.
Men prefer nice ladies to cold, masculinized broads, women prefer stoic types and not weepy emotional betas... there's something to offend the whole politically correct family.
“Women may perceive a responsive stranger as less desirable for different reasons," said Birnbaum in a press release. "Women may perceive this person as inappropriately nice and manipulative (i.e., trying to obtain sexual favors) or eager to please, perhaps even as desperate, and therefore less sexually appealing. Alternatively, women may perceive a responsive man as vulnerable and less dominant.”
So for now, the question “what do women want?” will remain unanswered. 
You almost have to pity the nice guy. He's been raised from birth to believe that he should be a perfect gentleman, that he should meet his woman's emotional needs, that he should be sweet and caring and sensitive and wear his own emotions on his sleeves, that he should respect her boundaries, pay for everything, and if he's just a goldarn pussy cat then surely she will come to her senses and see him for the wonderful, wonderful man he is on the inside and agree to marry him where they will live happily ever after.

Now imagine how bewildered and frustrated his delicate soul gets when the real world doesn't play out according to the script he was read as a child. If anything, women despise the nice guy more than they do the cad. They call the nice guy everything from a potential rapist, to a liar, a hypocrite, a creep, to being worse than Hitler, Stalin, and the Dark Lord Sauron rolled into one. And God help him if he complains. Women will shriek that he's a fraud who's only nice because he wants sex. Men will call him a whiny chump. And the nice guy remains in the dark, wondering what he did wrong and why everyone hates him so.

Clearly we need to distinguish between nice guys and "nice guys." I think the best way is to teach men to be good instead of nice. There's some overlap between the two, but they don't mean the same thing. When science confirms and players state that "women dig jerks," it's important to distinguish what we mean by jerk. Being a jerk doesn't mean being vicious or cruel. It means being a bit cold, a little distant, and enormously confident in the rightness of your cause. You have to make the judgment call of how much jerkiness is required with a particular woman.

I once had nice guy tendencies as a teenager. I quickly learned that they weren't getting me anywhere with girls. So instead of complaining about how women just didn't recognize my own niceness, I stopped being nice. I wasn't mean or rude, but I made it quite clear that I cared not a rat's ass for the feelings or opinions of others if they stood in the way of my plans. Once I stopped caring about others, whatever problems with women I once had vanished almost overnight. Let reason remain silent when it is gainsaid by experience.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

You know what they say about broken clocks

Andrew Sullivan is a useful barometer for trendy mainstream SWPL thinking. Never mind his use of his favorite swear word "Christianist," which roughly translated means, "Christians who try to take their faith seriously and disagree with Andrew Sullivan." Otherwise, I share much of his attitude here.
Every now and again, the absurd that is familiar can become fresh again. What’s absurd is the lockstep support for anything Israel might do in the United States. It’s the only country which, in a conflict with a US administration, will have Congressional Republicans and Democrats backing a foreign government over their own – and being rewarded for it in terms of money and votes. It’s the only country in which a foreign leader can address the US Congress as a rebuke to the US president – and get a standing ovation. It’s the only foreign country that receives $3 billion in aid and still gets to dress down the US president in the White House itself.
Like Vox Day, I'm a Zionist because I'm a nationalist. Jews deserve a homeland as much as anyone else. Where I part ways with many of our separated brethren is I see Israel as just one nation-state among many. We share some principles but Israel is shrewd and often aggressive in looking after its own interests. It's embarrassing to see American politicians stumble over themselves in how much they can abase themselves before the realpolitik of a foreign power. England, at least, had to conquer and occupy Ireland first.

A Modest Proposal for the Children of Poor Latin Americans

The continuing invasion at the US's southern border has inspired me to pen a modest proposal which I believe will be beneficial to all the peoples of the Western hemisphere and solve the perennial immigration crises which plague our great nation.

The solution is elegant in its simplicity. For decades, Mexicans and now Central Americans have been illegally flocking to the United States in the hopes of making a better life for themselves and their posterity. I needn't belabor the reality of illegal immigration: they beggar themselves to be smuggled over the border by ruthless Coyotes only to find that the dramatically increased costs of living in the United States often leaves them in grinding poverty. Their remittances, while at first glance beneficial to their families back home, often lead to gross inflation and destruction of local property values. Yet still they come. What I propose is we should come to them.

The United States should immediately declare war on Mexico and all the nations of Central America. Deploy the full might of our armed forces and wage unrelenting warfare upon them until they unconditionally surrender. With this accomplished, the ground invasion of these nations will commence. At the point of a bayonet, we will annex all of them and incorporate them into our benevolent empire of American liberty and prosperity. By conquering their countries and forcibly integrating them into the Greater United States, they will all become American subjects under our management. There will no longer be any pressing need for them to illegally enter the continental United States.

I know, my genius has rendered you speechless. You can thank me later once the Stars and Stripes triumphantly wave over Mexico City and the other Latin American capitols.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Skyrim Lich King/Death Knight build

Here's your perk plan. Two handed heavy armor builds are a lot of fun because you have more perks to play around with. I made my Lich King a Nord with long white hair and an enchanted greatsword named Frostmourn, natch. I've said before that I don't care for hybrid builds that much. This one works well because your sword will be your main offense with Conjuration and Destruction for flavor. I use frost spells as my only ranged option. You can see that I spec'ed into Destruction a lot but it's really not necessary. Essentially, I only used it to shoot at dragons when they're hovering overhead. When they're down on the ground, get in their face and cut them to ribbons. You don't need to put perks into Enchanting, but again I did it for role playing flavor. Get yourself kitted out in Daedric armor, summon two Dremora Lords, and smash everything before you.

We need Jim Ross for this guy

One year ago I never would have believed that Dean Ambrose could succeed as a face. If anything, I had him figured as the guy who would betray his brothers in the Shield. The grease, the mannerisms, his whole persona. Just watch him in his entrance video. You can almost smell the Camels and Jack Daniels on his breath, can't you? There he stands though, the hottest face in the WWE today. He has proven me wrong. Then again, maybe the traditional heel and face labels don't apply to him. He's just Dean freakin' Ambrose. He's like the new Roddy Piper or Brian Pillman.

This last Sunday's PPV was terrible. It almost seemed like Vince wanted to burn it all down out of spite. Almost like clockwork, the Monday Night Raw after a bad PPV was great. The storylines organically developed as the night went on. Stephanie getting arrested was brilliant, and Triple H's reaction was hilarious. Let's hope WWE can keep this level of programming going.

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Give the rabbits an inch and they'll take a rabbity mile

It's become something of a catch phrase of mine, but never ever give in to the pressures of the rabbit warren. Never apologize when they demand an apology because they aren't interested in contrition but only a public confession. Ignore their whining about sex and gender because even if you give them what they ask for, it still won't be good enough.
Hurrah. Marvel comics have revealed that Thor, the God of Thunder, has become a woman. Not in a transgender way, not in a "When Mr Thor gets back from the summer holidays he will be wearing a dress and called Ms Thor" way. No, Thor is simply a woman now and that's that. And you needn't worry about her going all soft and silly. As Jason Aaron, writer of the new Thor series, puts it: "This is not She-Thor. This is not Lady Thor. This is not Thorita. This is THOR. This is the THOR of the Marvel universe. But it's unlike any Thor we've ever seen before." I can't help but wonder if "Thorita" is a subconscious reference to Conchita Wurst, the bearded drag queen who won this year's Eurovision.
Female THOR (in manly capital letters, please) is, of course, a good thing. Anything that breaks up our rigid ideas of just what men and women are supposed to be is a good thing. I'm just not entirely sure that a female THOR does anything to truly challenge the status quo around gender.
When this marketing gimmick inevitably crashes and burns, they're going to blame us for not being progressive enough to appreciate true equality and tolerance. Here's my rule of thumb for female characters: if they aren't going to be feminine or girly, then what is the point of making them female? Ripley from the first two Alien movies is a feminine woman. Vasquez is not. If your female character is just going to be a man with different sex organs, then what point in making that character female besides hitting your diversity quota?
Putting women in men's roles only gets you so far. Sexism didn't disappear when women started wearing trousers. It's wonderful that the fairer sex were able to undo their corsets and take on things that were traditionally seen as masculine – whether that be sports, political careers or plain old dungarees – but it has done little to challenge the scapegoating of femininity. We live in a society that still systematically celebrates masculinity while ridiculing all things feminine. Women who adopt masculine clothing are seen as serious and businesslike. Men who adopt feminine styles are sneered at.
As well they should be sneered at. This article confirms in spades that for all of their conscious aping of men, feminists still do not and cannot understand masculinity the way men do. A beautiful woman in a dress is a lovely sight. A man who's built like a linebacker wearing a dress is a punch line. A man who looks like John Scalzi in a dress is pathetic. A woman in a conservative business outfit can indeed be seen as serious. A woman who tries to behave like a caricature of manhood is repulsive no matter how pretty she may be on the outside.
I doubt Thor will become female in the films but if they do ever cast a woman, it sounds as if she will be strong and powerful and all the things we associate with men. Another bloody "strong female lead". That is not to say that women are not, cannot and should not be those things – but when we have a "feminised" male superhero celebrated for his traditionally girly qualities, we might be a little further along the path of true equality. Bring on Thorita, I say.
 Good luck with that. A sissified male superhero is likely to repel both sexes.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

The pope that didn't bark

It’s fair to ask what kind of Catholic Church we as Evangelicals want to see. At lunch I asked Pope Francis what his heart was for evangelism. He smiled, knowing what was behind my question and comment was, “I’m not interested in converting Evangelicals to Catholicism. I want people to find Jesus in their own community.  There are so many doctrines we will never agree on. Let’s be about showing the love of Jesus.” (Of course Evangelicals do evangelize Catholics and Catholics do the same to us. However, that discussion we will raise another day.)
Don't even start. I already know what you're going to say. You're going to say that this was a private conversation, that it wasn't recorded, that this Evangelical fellow must have misheard or misremembered or misquoted the pope. Even if the pope said what this guy said he said, it's not a doctrine of the Church or an ex cathedra statement and we don't need to pay attention to everything the pope says, et cetera ad infinitum ad nauseum.

All of that is true as far as it goes. At the same time, it's more than a little demoralizing to have a pope who encourages heretics and discourages the orthodox.