He goes on to explain how David responds to this attempt at feminist shaming:And as the ark of the Lord came into the city of David, Michal Saul's daughter looked through a window, and saw king David leaping and dancing before the Lord; and she despised him in her heart. Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, How glorious was the king of Israel to day, who uncovered himself to day in the eyes of the handmaids of his servants, as one of the vain fellows shamelessly uncovereth himself! And David said unto Michal, It was before the Lord, which chose me before thy father, and before all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of the Lord, over Israel: therefore will I play before the Lord. And I will yet be more vile than thus, and will be base in mine own sight: and of the maidservants which thou hast spoken of, of them shall I be had in honour. Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul had no child unto the day of her death.
- 2 Samuel 6:16, 20-23.
David's response is also illuminating. He not only rejects her attempt to control him, but he recognizes that her failure to understand the purpose underlying his actions renders her categorically unfit to be a wife to a king who fears and abases himself before the Lord. The clear implication of the final verse should put fear into the heart of every woman who thinks to exert herd control over her husband via shame: "Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul had no child unto the day of her death."
...This is a strong Alpha move. David doesn't hesitate or equivocate, he doesn't attempt to explain himself or defend himself. He simply acts. He doesn't try to fix the situation because there is nothing to fix: she has, of her own will, disqualified herself as being worthy of his wife and queen. David's action illuminates the bright dividing line between ALPHA and BETA. ALPHAS qualify women. BETAS attempt to qualify themselves to women. And ALPHAS, being secure in their self-belief, do not tolerate women attempting to qualify them. The mere attempt to do so is sufficient to intrinsically disqualify the woman.I've said before that I am not a Roissy style player, nor do I want to be as extramarital sex is a mortal sin. One of the commandments of Game definitely jives with my personal experience: make your mission, not your woman, your priority in life. Despite what they may say to the contrary, women do not want to be your number one focus. The best wives are those women willing to subordinate themselves to their husband's ambition. So Conan, what is it you want from life? TO SLAY YOUR ENEMIES, DRIVE THEM BEFORE YOU, AND HEAR THE LAMENTATIONS OF THEIR WOMEN!
A man answers to God. He does not answer to his wife. The wise man will listen to his wife and consider her advice. But he will not answer to her. He has a purpose in life that goes beyond pleasing her.
That might be taking it too far, but you need to focus on something. Players can fake it if they're only looking for a one night stand, but if you're serious about finding a wife then first things first: choose your destiny, as Shao Kahn says. That is not to say you need to achieve your goal first. Depending on what it is, it may take years, decades, or a lifetime. But you need to have a concrete mission in your mind and be ready to pursue it. If she believes in you and your mission, then she will stand by you for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and so on. If she attempts to shame you or henpeck you out of pursuing your goals, then that's a good sign you ought not to marry her.
Be secure and confident in your ability to achieve your goal. If you do not feel it on the inside then act like it on the outside, and eventually the interior will follow. You qualify women, you don't allow them to qualify you.