There's a peculiar line of thinking I've noticed among Westerners, even Catholics. They believe that Islam is whatever Muslims say it is. If that's so, then it follows that if we can get enough Muslims to agree that Islam is peaceful (by which it is usually meant that Muslims will become secular liberals) then Islam will be peaceful. Islam is a real thing that exists independently of what any particular Muslim thinks it is. To be Muslim is to be loyal to Islam. Being loyal to Islam means being loyal to some false and evil ideas. Just like Christians, there are good Muslims and bad Muslims, Muslims with strong informed loyalty and those whose knowledge and loyalty is nominal.
Mine wasn't the sort of talk they'd probably tell their parents too much about, but I did manage to tell them that the Crusades were mostly a good thing that got out of hand in a few isolated cases due to human greed.
John C. Wright tells us what victory looks like:
Traditionalists are an understandably pessimistic lot because our struggle has been one long defeat spread out over centuries. I'm a pessimist in the short term. Things aren't going to get better in my lifetime. I'm an optimist in the long run though because it's harder to prop up lies than to acknowledge truth. I imagine it's hard work for our progressive overlords to constantly monitor every public venue for signs of badthink. It takes a lot of mental energy to constantly believe transparent myths like racial and sex equality. They've built a citadel on the commanding heights of the culture, but the internet is their vulnerable flank. Keep fighting. Keep striving for goodness and right. Never, ever back down to them.I submit that victory shall be ours by using the same methods we used to overthrow the Roman Empire and replace paganism with Christianity.First, we must pray. We must live differently from the pagans around us, according to standards of higher discipline, displaying more fidelity in marriage, eschewing divorce, assisting the poor and downtrodden, and living lives so holy that even the devils are amazed.Second, by being willing to suffer public scorn, loss of prestige, position, and fortune for Christ.Third, by being open, vocal, coordinated, and relentless in our efforts. Fourth, by staying on message and never giving an inch.Fifth and last, by showing the imagination of man that no one can live in the craven airless cesspool of the mental environment of political correctness, but that men flourish and grow strong and brave, not to mention more sexually appealing, in the walled gardens of the Church and the battlefields of life.