I attended a New Year's Eve party with other Catholic young adults. To my dismay, it was a dry party. As such, I was my normal aloof and introverted self. Alcohol doesn't make that big a difference but it does make me marginally more sociable. Hypergamy is a constant of female nature and I observe it with many nice young Catholic girls. To be fair, they're much more open to marrying young than women who are Godless heathens, or who live as though they are. But like all other women, they seek the highest status man they can find. It's painful to see my male peers pining away for their one true love in the midst of so much female plenty. Many of them suffer a crippling lack of self-confidence. It's almost always the same people who attend Youth and Young Adult Ministry talks. They don't want to rock the boat or cause any awkwardness in case of rejection. I myself simply don't care. If one girl shoots me down, I immediately move on the next. I reject the "friend zone" entirely. If she doesn't want to be my lover, then I cut off all contact except for public gatherings.
As always, there's much worth quoting from this interview with Raymond Cardinal Burke:
Matthew: Your Eminence, what has been the impact of this Catholic “man-crisis” on the Church?I was baffled by that phenomenon when I first entered the Church: during the week I'd get high on the writings of the saints and traditional devotions. Sunday Mass at the typical Novus Ordo parish always felt like an anticlimax to the week. It became a chore. The Grand Canyon sized chasm between doctrine and praxis gave me headaches from trying to reconcile the two. I eventually came to terms with it, greatly aided by the local FSSP parish, St. Stephen the First Martyr.
Cardinal Burke: The Church becomes very feminized. Women are wonderful, of course. They respond very naturally to the invitation to be active in the Church. Apart from the priest, the sanctuary has become full of women. The activities in the parish and even the liturgy have been influenced by women and have become so feminine in many places that men do not want to get involved.
Men are often reluctant to become active in the Church. The feminized environment and the lack of the Church’s effort to engage men has led many men to simply opt out.
As an example, it became politically incorrect to talk about the Knights of the Altar, an idea that is highly appealing to young men. The Knights of the Altar emphasize the idea that young men offer their chivalrous service at the altar to defend Christ in the sacred realities of the Church. This idea is not welcome in many places today.
Aspects of the Church’s life that emphasized the man‑like character of devotion and sacrifice have been deemphasized. Devotions that required time and effort were simply abandoned. Everything became so easy and when things are easy, men don’t think it is worth the effort.
There has been, and continues to be, serious liturgical abuses that turn men off.
Men generally avoid venues that are perceived to be dominated by women (and women always want to come barging in on traditionally male enclaves, amirite?!) In the context of the Church, women pretty much run everything that doesn't explicitly require Holy Orders, and even then, if you're hospitalized, it's just as likely a little old lady will bring you the Eucharist instead of a priest. Not to detract from their service, but men and women generally have different approaches ...to spirituality and religion. For example: lectures that are devoted to apologetics usually draw more men. Burke is right that the Church will attract men again if she emphasizes precision, reverence, and excellence in the liturgy and more confidence and consistency in expressing her teachings on spirituality and morals. I'd go so far as to say that if the Church became an all out, full blown literal Warhammer-style Church Militant, men would flock to her gates and women would still come regardless. Islam caters to women not at all, and not only are millions of young men fanatically devoted to it, women follow them. Islam is even finding converts among white Western women, despite - or maybe because of - what we know about how hardcore Muslims treat women. If a false religion can inspire that much loyalty, surely the one true faith can do better.