If you don't feel comfortable gaining Red Pill wisdom from the likes of Heartiste, Rollo Tomassi, or Return of Kings, then go back to the original sources. Each generation has its own myths which it does not share with others. In the 21st century, our cherished myths include those of human equality in general and the interchangeability of men and women in particular. Hopelessly blue pill white knights, manginas, feminist harpies, and SJW bullies claim that gender is purely a social construct. If we can just manage to find the right formula for social engineering, we can all become the shapeless androgynous blobs of their dreams. F. Scott Fitzgerald had a lot of baggage, but his short story "A New Leaf" shows he didn't harbor many illusions about the nature of women.
The story begins with 21 year old Julia Ross having lunch with her beta orbiter Phil Hoffman. Julia spies an incredibly handsome man coming out onto the terrace, and she demands that Phil introduce her to him. Phil, the dutiful white knight, proceeds to tell her that the man is his friend, Dick Ragland. Dick is a cad, an alcoholic, a social outcast, and all around lazy no-goodnik. Julia immediately declares all of it to be lies, calumny, and slander. Dick is an Adonis to her before they even say a word to each other. She proclaims herself to be the unique snow flake who can tame that wild stallion. Starting to sound familiar yet?
Dick wines and dines her, tells his sad story, teases her, plays it cool. She agrees to meet him for lunch the day after tomorrow, eagerly saying that she's free all week. In the meantime, she pines away for her new alpha bad boy. At the appointed time, he shows up in a drunken stupor. The difference is so striking she compares him to Jekyll and Hyde. Julia tells him she's too busy to see him the rest of the week.
She runs into Dick again and he's back to his old charming self. He sweeps her off her feet again. Phil again tries to tell her that he's no good, and again she says he's changed. You can figure out how the story ends if you haven't read it yet.
Dick is not an admirable character. He's weak willed, shifty, narcissistic, and possibly sociopathic. Nonetheless, he's portrayed as having enormous success with women. When left to their own devices, women will always choose the suitor which gives her the most tingles. There's something to be said for the old custom of requiring the father's permission before marrying his daughter. If men were required to impress him rather than their bride-to-be, they'd have a stronger incentive to make themselves marriage material rather than improving their pickup skills.
When a woman decides she likes a man, regardless of that man's track record or character, then she will make the relationship happen. She'll ignore his bad reputation, she'll quit her job, she'll move across the country, she'll abandon her husband to be with the object of her affection. If you don't believe this is true, just ask the new Mrs. Charles Manson.
It's vital to remember this distinction: women may find good character traits to be attractive but not necessarily arousing. They themselves seldom understand this distinction, hence their furious denials that women love assholes even as they date assholes. Pay less attention to what a woman says, and more to what she actually does.